We bet your sex ed sucked.

Beyond handing out condoms, consent forms, and haunting close-ups of STIs—yet well before we get into identity and expression—we skipped something foundational.

This is the step that should have come before the sexual revolution and definitely before dating app algorithms outsourced our intuition for compatibility. 

There’s an entire dimension of sex we’ve barely begun to teach, the part that shapes how we experience sex: through our inner emotional architecture. This architecture holds the experience of sex, giving it meaning in the greater story of our lives, during our universal quest for self-discovery and love.

By neglecting this core, we’re left to navigate intimacy with no map. We’ve become conditioned to disconnect from ourselves and to chase validation instead of authentic connection. The result?

• People seek attention rather than intimacy and mistake chemistry for compatibility

• Ghosting is a dating norm and “emotional availability” the exception

• Sex becomes transactional, where few feel deeply seen and honored

It’s time to return to our inner intelligence, our guide on how to connect through presence rather than performance.

What role is sex playing in your life?